Interpersonal communication is the process that we use to communicate our ideas, thoughts, feelings to another person and when we make personal contacts, build a connection with, and establish a relationship with another individual to satisfy our social needs and realise our personal goals.
Recently, I chanced upon an article from the February issue of Reader's Digest and decided to do an analysis based on it. The article is called "My True Love" and it is a true story. I learned in communications that physical appearance play a significant role in relational formation and development. It is said that general perceptions of physical attractiveness exert a consistent positive impact on relational formation. However, it diminishes over the course of a relationship. In addition, judgements of physical attractiveness are often influenced by cultural norms and socialisation. Based on the article, the author stated that he was attracted to the other party by her oriental beauty with a fair complexion and black hair. She was also vivacious, sociable and intelligent.
Adding on, I learned that people have the tendency to form relationships with those that are similar to them or share a common interest. It helps reduce their uncertainties about each other and reduces the associated risks in their relationship too. Similarly, the author and his partner shared the same attitudinal similarity as they took medicine in University.
Sadly, their relationship did not work out as the lady became engaged to a doctor. The author was disheartened and got married to another lady as a substitute to his first love after a friend's introduction. The author had difficulties trying to communicate with her due to different cultures. He did a poor job of sharing his feelings with her, therefore as time passed, it became easier for them not to communicate with each other in any meaningful way. The author couldn't forget his first love. He simply belived that she was the only lady who could understand him and with whom he could share his thoughts with.
However, one fine day, everything became clear about how the author felt towards his first love. He realized he had spent his entire married life dreaming about her, even though she didn't love him and it has became his daily mediation desiring for her. He had finally awoken from his slumber and came to a realization that he had neglected his marriage for 25 years.
The author reciprocrated and became more thoughtful towards his wife. Their marital disharmony had finally calmed down and they no longer disagree about so many things. Feelings developed and they started opening up to each other. The author learned that though his youthful dreams will never come true, he is finally satisfied with what he have.
I've learned through this simple story that I should cherish and be contented with everything that I have(: hope you do too(:
Recently, I chanced upon an article from the February issue of Reader's Digest and decided to do an analysis based on it. The article is called "My True Love" and it is a true story. I learned in communications that physical appearance play a significant role in relational formation and development. It is said that general perceptions of physical attractiveness exert a consistent positive impact on relational formation. However, it diminishes over the course of a relationship. In addition, judgements of physical attractiveness are often influenced by cultural norms and socialisation. Based on the article, the author stated that he was attracted to the other party by her oriental beauty with a fair complexion and black hair. She was also vivacious, sociable and intelligent.
Adding on, I learned that people have the tendency to form relationships with those that are similar to them or share a common interest. It helps reduce their uncertainties about each other and reduces the associated risks in their relationship too. Similarly, the author and his partner shared the same attitudinal similarity as they took medicine in University.
Sadly, their relationship did not work out as the lady became engaged to a doctor. The author was disheartened and got married to another lady as a substitute to his first love after a friend's introduction. The author had difficulties trying to communicate with her due to different cultures. He did a poor job of sharing his feelings with her, therefore as time passed, it became easier for them not to communicate with each other in any meaningful way. The author couldn't forget his first love. He simply belived that she was the only lady who could understand him and with whom he could share his thoughts with.
However, one fine day, everything became clear about how the author felt towards his first love. He realized he had spent his entire married life dreaming about her, even though she didn't love him and it has became his daily mediation desiring for her. He had finally awoken from his slumber and came to a realization that he had neglected his marriage for 25 years.
The author reciprocrated and became more thoughtful towards his wife. Their marital disharmony had finally calmed down and they no longer disagree about so many things. Feelings developed and they started opening up to each other. The author learned that though his youthful dreams will never come true, he is finally satisfied with what he have.
I've learned through this simple story that I should cherish and be contented with everything that I have(: hope you do too(:
1 comment:
Wow, it's quite scary that he could have neglected his wife for 25 years! Poor wife, to go through a dull 25 years of marriage. But I think this kind of neglect and lack of communication is quite common in relationships, especially when people take each other for granted and start to rub each other off the wrong ways.
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